Heartfelt.
Real.
Thank him.
Yes, Your husband.
Teach your children to thank him.
Yes, Their father.
He is the God-proclaimed protector and provider of your home. Shall he work all day (or night) just to return home to hear about MOMMY THE HERO, who has bought this, or made that, and saved their child from untold woes?
Every Husband and/or Father has the innate desire to be the HERO for his family. Modern day does not dictate that he slay dragons, lions, or even Buffalo to do so. He can not move to a foreign land, homestead 400 acres and build a home to bring his family to. He often can not even carry his child in the front of his saddle and ride off to show them "what someday will be theirs".
So, how does a Husband or Father become a HERO today?
Simple. . . . his wife and children make him their hero.
Yes. It is up to YOU.
Let's review some FACTS:
Number 1: YOUR husband wants (and NEEDS) to be YOUR hero. He wants (and NEEDS) to be your CHILDREN'S HERO.
....your reaction: "no problem. I understand. I am ok with that. I want that too!"
Number 2: If YOU are filling the position of HERO in your family, HE can not.
....your reaction: "but I want to be my kid's hero too, ....but, yes, he can be also.....but why can't we both.... but I.....but, but, but....." mmm. hmmm. I read your mind.
If number 1 is easy, why is number 2 so hard? That goes back to Eve. Women have been disastrously trying to fill the God-designed role for men since the first woman on Earth; instead of embracing the AMAZING role God created us to fill:
NURTURER. Society has striven hard to give this word a negative connotation . . . and has been quite successful. . . yet horribly wrong.
Society wants you to be discouraged and frustrated with being given that label. Society wants you to think that as a "nurturer" you will be oppressed, repressed, fettered, encumbered, and shackled. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, these words in red are actually antonyms (opposites) of the word "nurture" per Webster's Merriam.com.
In truth, a NURTURER is one who: supplies nourishment, educates, and works to further the development of (others). True synonyms (similar words to) Nurturer are: cultivator, encourager, promoter.
Back to you and your husband now.
Will you do these things for him? Nourish him. Educate your children. Work to further the development of your marriage. Cultivate your relationship. Encourage your husband. Promote him. And maybe above all: THANK HIM, for all he does for you.
Stop trying to be your family's hero. Make your husband your hero. Make him your kid's hero. . . and he will truly become: YOUR HERO.
Remember though,
you must focus of filling your God-given role in the family (Nurturer),
to free up his role (Hero: protector, providor) for HIM!
Throw out that "position filled" sign
and put up the "HERO NEEDED",
you may be surprised how fast he will gladly fill it!
you must focus of filling your God-given role in the family (Nurturer),
to free up his role (Hero: protector, providor) for HIM!
Throw out that "position filled" sign
and put up the "HERO NEEDED",
you may be surprised how fast he will gladly fill it!
What can you do to make your husband your family's HERO today?
Proverbs 31: 10-12
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
One of the most efficient "Hero-izing" methods in my house is just to make sure your children give credit where credit is due, so to speak. When you buy them an item, be sure they thank DAD for the item as soon as possible. Explain to your child(ren) how if Daddy did not work to earn money, you would not have had the money to buy the item, after all, if DAD did not work, could you have really afforded the item?
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